tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post6938363944263029034..comments2024-01-03T02:57:10.371-05:00Comments on The NovelistaBarista : ER rooms and Kidney InfectionsTeach.Workout.Lovehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06093196435468090916noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-70065330114321748642010-08-20T22:07:59.858-04:002010-08-20T22:07:59.858-04:00i get it. you needed him. you needed him then, and...i get it. you needed him. you needed him then, and not 5 hours later, after the fear and the pain and the cat scan and the morphine. he needs to understand that, for when it (or somehting else) happens again.Seraphinehttp://EncoreSeraphine.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-68377949364036826332010-08-20T12:32:30.343-04:002010-08-20T12:32:30.343-04:00Wow, I'm sorry you had to go through that. But...Wow, I'm sorry you had to go through that. But YAY for no surgery. I do think that he should have been there for you! :(TheWriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00679176746170581659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-11682456056841662412010-08-20T11:00:13.989-04:002010-08-20T11:00:13.989-04:00I've been sick for 2 months now, Yesterday I h...I've been sick for 2 months now, Yesterday I had to have some more tests ran. my boyfriend can't come because he doesn't have a car. The only thing he could do was text me that he loved me and hoped this time they would figure it out. <br /><br />I think he meant well by it, but all in all i'm glad they could figure out what is wrong with you and you're getting better.The Snarky Narwhalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09714616166738636635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-17346345543392790982010-08-20T09:13:20.565-04:002010-08-20T09:13:20.565-04:00aw thanks everyone... yeah he apologized and said ...aw thanks everyone... yeah he apologized and said his motive was the be there the entire night... so i cant be TOO mad at him... i get it... it just didnt feel like that when it happened.Teach.Workout.Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06093196435468090916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-26314639567298483732010-08-20T08:36:53.783-04:002010-08-20T08:36:53.783-04:00I'd be upset too. You look to him for comfort ...I'd be upset too. You look to him for comfort and he wasn't there to comfort you. I doubt he meant anything by it. Men are just massive morons. Let him know how much it upset you. Hopefully he understands and it won't happen again.<br /><br />I'm glad you didn't need surgery and you're ok!Kariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12966033900335006659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-34276198281332824742010-08-20T03:37:43.032-04:002010-08-20T03:37:43.032-04:00ohhhhh No! I hope you feel better soon and I'...ohhhhh No! I hope you feel better soon and I'm not sure what to tell you about that whole situation, I would definitely be upset and I'm assuming you spoke with him.. did he react with an apology right away? I hope so.. maybe he wasn't aware of what he was doing? Sometimes boys are dumb! eeeps, I'm bad at giving advice apparently but it's try sometimes boys are dumb!paddle to shorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17888631049230251512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-55696367547983706682010-08-19T16:54:53.862-04:002010-08-19T16:54:53.862-04:00it was not a good reason. the reason was because ...it was not a good reason. the reason was because he thought i was going to get surgery and he figured since my mom was there he could show up later that nite and stay with me over night. <br /><br />he was at home with his friend fixing a computer and eating dinner and then came to me.<br /><br />it was a really bad and unacceptable excuse, which i made very clear.Teach.Workout.Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06093196435468090916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-39493327665013563722010-08-19T16:28:17.882-04:002010-08-19T16:28:17.882-04:00First of all, and obviously, thank goodness you...First of all, and obviously, thank goodness you're alright. <br /><br />As for M's behavior. Well, there are plans and there are plans. If my beloved was in the ER, I would move heaven and earth to get there...except there are some things you just can't move. <br /><br />Nearly perfect example-she was in a car wreck years ago. She called me, explained what had happened. She was fine, she was in the car alone, car was toast. I was at work. Now, I could have run off to be with her-at that job, I had other people who could take over for me if absolutely necessary. As it turned out, there was nothing for me to know-a police officer brought her home, the car was towed to the garage, she had all the information from the other person's insurance. So I just stayed at work. <br /><br />Now, fast forward to the present. God forbid, my wife calls and has been in another wreck and is hospitalized. I can't leave my current job-literally, its against the law for us to be open if I'm not there. Now, I would start calling anyone and everyone, calling in favors left and right, to get someone to cover for me. But it might indeed be 4 hours before I could get to her, regardless of how badly I want to be there. <br /><br />I guess what I'm saying is there might indeed have been nothing he could have done to be there any sooner. It kind of depends on what kind of "stuff" he had to do and whether it could have been moved/rescheduled/ignored. <br /><br />I do think you need to talk about it. He may have a good reason, but if you don't ask, you'll never know. It is fair to ask him to consider your needs #1 in his life. It is also fair of him to ask you to understand that it's not always physically/financially possible for him to do that every time. (In 2010, work really does have to come first sometimes, because if M doesn't put his employer first, there is probably a currently unemployed person who will.8https://www.blogger.com/profile/00897636875216996092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-45094662389157705852010-08-19T03:48:58.098-04:002010-08-19T03:48:58.098-04:00OMG feel better soon!! Those drugs to help are ha...OMG feel better soon!! Those drugs to help are hardcore. I've been on them. Take care! Drink lots of liquids. <br />That sucks that he wasn't there. If he was working I can understand him not being there, but if he was just hanging out he should have been there. Especially seeing as you had plans together. He could have been pushing you in a wheelchair instead of you having to walk around. I have been in this situation before. But at the time my boyfriend was working, we needed the money and his boss was an ass. But he was still there mentally, texting me the whole time. You need some support. Glad your Mom was there to help. <br />Get better soon!Angela Tolsmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03722519978325022244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-75382113345307769302010-08-19T03:07:00.927-04:002010-08-19T03:07:00.927-04:00First, I'm glad you're ok! I've been t...First, I'm glad you're ok! I've been to the ER for a kidney infection (plus other things at the same time) and that was nooooo fun at all. I too thought I was going to need surgery and was terrified.<br /><br />As for M, I guess it depends on these things he had to do. If it was like...three seconds before the bank closes and his credit card was stolen and he had to buy blood for a dying cousin, then I'd excuse it (or...you know. Something similar). But if it was "Oh, I had to do laundry then my friend called and he just broke up with his girl"...that's no excuse. I'd be pretty mad. It's nice that he considered that at least you had someone with you during it all, but I think he should have come sooner.Ashley @ Ashley Loves Bookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16855498046320276658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-71766713199648339702010-08-18T14:32:26.077-04:002010-08-18T14:32:26.077-04:00I'm glad you didn't need surgery! If I had...I'm glad you didn't need surgery! If I had been in that much pain I would have told my husband to get his ass down to the er pronto! I think I would feel the same way you do about the bf putting other things in front of you when you're scared and in pain.<br /><br />Hope you feel better soon!Drewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138050246830502228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6567562863467636840.post-69061590512060563512010-08-18T14:29:29.658-04:002010-08-18T14:29:29.658-04:00Aw I'm so sorry & I hope you feel better! ...Aw I'm so sorry & I hope you feel better! I think he should have been there for you. I would be extremely mad. My boyfriend was in the hospital for something minor, but as soon as I found out I got dressed in 2 seconds and got there and went into work late to take care of him. I would hope he would do the same for me. You deserve someone that will be there with you through good and bad times! Best of luck! <3Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14407437564246340467noreply@blogger.com