Saturday, June 11, 2011

Define Cheating.

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The other day they were talking about on the radio, in light of what happened with Anthony Weiner, what people would consider cheating. It got me to thinking about what I consider cheating.

I have dealt with a bunch of different cheating from the guys I have been with. I have also done my fair share of wrong doings as well, so I think in some sense I am a little bias to the situation.

I also understand every persons version of what they consider cheating is absolutely different. My friend Mich, her version is basically anything that has to do with someone else that you are talking to, sending pictures to, hanging out with... and beyond.

Do I believe that Weiner should be asked to step down because he sent his weiner (pun definitely intended)  to 6 women over twitter? No. I think that is totally stupid, it's just a picture. But then again, who knows what he actually did. Either way I don't think it should have anything to do with his job.

To me... cheating is flirting with another person, going on dates with them, kissing them and then everything else after that.

I don't necessarily believe that text messages are cheating nor are picture messages, although i believe picture messages are the step right before they are actually going to cheat. It is hard for me to say about the whole text message thing because M texted with so many different girls I couldnt even tell you how many. And I know they were not all just friends or being nice. So I mean I could say it was cheating but who really knows.

I think any physical-ness with another person is absolute cheating, there is no other way to see that.

My advice on cheating? DON'T DO IT!


What are your thoughts on cheating?

8 comments:

Rachael said...

I hate cheaters - they seem so low and always claim they couldn't "help" what they were doing when clearly they could of removed them self from the situation. I think any form of flirting is cheating, I guess some people would see that as really harsh but if i'm with a guy I don't want them flirting with anyone else.

Retromus-ik said...

My thoughts on cheating, like you, I would say: "Don't do it". It's disrespectful and I don't believe in "It just happened." Of course, no one is perfect, but at least, own up to your mistakes.

Crazy Little World Of Mine said...

My thoughts? Don't do it, really!! To me cheating starts with flirting, dates, kisses, etc etc. Emails and text may or may not be considered cheating...then again I would have to see the text, email and then see if I consider it going over the border line big time.
In general, cheating is disrespectful and something no one should do or go through, and if it comes to this point...then it's best to think it over before worse decisions are made. My thoughts really...

Happy weekend to you!!!

xoxo

Andhari said...

Honestly if I'm into a guy, I'm pretty much a one man woman. I think cheating is disrespectful, both to yourself and the person you're with. If people can't feel enough with just one person then they shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.

Flirting is definitely cheating. Texts and e-mails can be considered cheating if flirting is involved in it. :)

Swapnil N said...

Whats' cheating?.....well for me its something when one goes for excess.... when one has all his needs (emotional and physical) fulfilled or have people to fulfill them but still goes for excess....wherever this lust for more is involved....there is cheating.....I don't see involving into other person emotionally other than your beau make as cheating.....coz emotional turmoil is something which bring even the strongest on the knees....and the partner is equally responsible and more criminal to bring it to the point where the sufferer has to go for somebody else.....so emotional involvement can't be termed as cheating and mail, txt, or pic messages or wtever used for it should not be considered as cheating....but going physical is definitely cheating for me.....no one night stand, casual make out etc can be termed as harmless when u r already in a relationship.....nothing can justify this....and when u r in a secret relationship which is based on physical lust then all means used to help it grow like txt, mail etc are part of cheating as well.....

imlivinginadream said...

I mostly agree with you on this! I think that flirting with someone else maybe happens without realizing sometimes, but some of my friends go out to clubs and grind hardcore with guys and claim that isn't cheating, and I disagree with that. I think anything physical with another guy is really uncool, even if it's not "technically" cheating & if they mean it harmlessly. I personally wouldn't be able to do that!

Novelista Barista said...

thank you for all of your comments!

Katherina said...

I'm not sure if I fully agree on that - for example, flirting with someone else, for me, is completely acceptable. In fact, not doing so from time to time (both parts of the couple) may end up destroying a relationship because, after all, it brings excitement and makes you feel desired. However, it should be a harmless flirt. Anything becoming rather physical is cheating.
Then again, a cheat can be or can not be accepted depending on other factors: only a kiss, with a stranger, I can accept. It can happen. Anything else...we'll see.

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