Thursday, January 27, 2011

Interactive Thursdays!



Question....

Would you get back together with someone after they wanted to take a break?




My Answer..

I actually don't have an answer to this question because I am going through it right now so I really wanted to see what other peoples opinions were and what I should do. If someone is deciding whether they should be with you or be single, I don't know if I would want to be with that person anymore if they decided they wanted me. 

I really am not sure. I guess if the option comes up, then I will have to decide, but I wanted to see what everyone else would do.

Right now, my answer is no.


12 comments:

zealousy said...

I too would say 'no'. If they're taking a break b/c they're not sure if they want to be with me or not, there's a good possibility that they don't want to be with me at all. I don't see how taking a break would help them to decipher that. I would feel as though they're only coming back because they are lonely and want some company until they find someone 'better'.

Sonja said...

I'll tell you that when I dated the same kid for 7 years we were on "breaks" ALOT. I always said "ok" when we'd get back together. Stupid? Probably. But do I regret it..ever? Absolutely not.

If my husband now though said that to me I would never go back. It's childish and if you need a "break" there's a bigger issue.

I'm sorry you're going through this :( xoxo

ALLY said...

I've been dating my now-boyfriend for over two years and we took 2 breaks quite a long time ago. It was honestly the best thing we ever did. Our relationship has improved tremendously and we communicate a lot better. I think it really depends on the person and if they're willing to make the commitment.

Heather said...

It depends. Sometimes breaks are a good chance to figure things out, especially if you have a lot going on. I took a few breaks with an old boyfriend and I don't regret it. Even though we aren't together now, it helped our relationship at the time. Then again, every relationship is different.

Mo Pie, Please said...

As Heather said, every relationship is different. It kind of seems like he's been distant to you for some time now so that's what makes me hesitant to say 'yes'. It just kind of makes me think that maybe he's not the right guy for you. But if you're committed and are just having certain issues that call for a break then it's one thing, but if you're just going about your relationship thinking it's all okay and then he says he needs a break - well then I would say no to taking him back. Good luck!

Shop Girl* said...

I agree with most people in that a) every relationship is different; and b) it totally depends on the two people involved.

Personally, I wouldn't go back. That type of questioning is enough for me to say enough's enough. If you aren't 100% sure that you want to be with me, then don't. I wouldn't stay with someone unless that's exactly where I wanted to be, and I would expect the same.

It's not fair to either person otherwise...

Heather Pranitis said...

"Before" my answer was no however, with my current beau we did this. We were fighting a lot and took a break -- well completely broke-up, I moved out and he well...when on a few dates and a few months later we started dating again. Currently, we have been together including the break almost 6 years. Sometimes, when things are rough you need to go your separate ways, if things are meant to be they will be. In my situtation, we both needed and wanted something different. But, honestly it sucked because I did not date anyone and the "break" was his idea. Candidly, it is a personal decision. I hope my two-sense helps.

Neo said...

tried that twice, won't work, trust is gone,
my personal thoughts "you break my heart like that and now you decide you want me back, that is not love"

Me, Myself and I said...

Only you can answer that question and we know what we should do and that isn't always what we do. Take it from someone who for 4 years kept taking the guy back and FINALLY realized he didn't really love me. Only when it was convenient for him. If you do take him back, he needs to make a commitment and work for it.

Melanie's Randomness said...

Tried it 3 times with the same guy. Break up, got back, broke up, got back...etc. It didn't work. We both changed too much or NOT enough during the break. So my answer is no.

Melanie's Randomness

Julianna Morlet said...

it depends on what they wanted to break about. if they pulled the GOd card...hell no. If they pulled the "i'm just wanting to think through if i wanna be with your or not"...hell no. If they are trying to sort through legitimate issues. maybe yes :)

Sophia the Writer said...

I had a very weak love-heart in my early 20's and that's all I did. Date commitment-phobes who ran away and then feel elated when they came back.

It's gotten better as I've grown older, but I've learned - multiple times, each time the hard way - that the guy for you is the one who will stick around.

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