Thursday, July 16, 2009

Interactive Thursday!

Topic of the Day:

Where do you go to meet a nice guy/girl to fall for?
Where did you meet yours?

I ask this question because i have had many conversations with my friends who are looking and we try to figure out where is the best place to meet a NICE guy who is not looking to play you or just hook up. Is it at the bar? At the gym? At school? What do you do if you're out of college and there isnt anyone at your work place? Where do you go? Online?

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I truly believe that if you are looking for a nice guy, you either need to meet them through your friends or through your friends at work.
(keep in mind these are only my opinions!!!!! so dont get mad!)

At bars or clubs or anything that involves drinking --- Okay--i mean you CAN, but for the most part it doesnt work out. Unless it is at a very uncrowded bar and you talk to this person when you're sober,,, it doesnt work out.
At the gym---- really? You arent going to the gym to talk. You are all sweaty and hot and disgusting --probably not the best place to meet your future hubby... But if it works for you, then MUCHO KUDOS!! or eharmony --- no. I cant totally shit on it because i know there are people out there who do meet good people on there, but for the most part, i just think that although people dont think they can meet someone in person, you CAN. You just have to make the extra effort. Shy or not. And if there are people who wont give you a chance by first look, then YOU DONT NEED THEM!
On the street -- could happen, most likely not.
On vacation -- chances are, they wont remember your name, OR they end up being incredibly clingy or you will only see them on vacations!
Blind dates --- look, with all these social networking sites, you shouldnt have to go on a blind date! Find out what these mofos look like for god sake!

I met mine.....
in the parking lot behind my first apartment i lived in in college in Pleasantville. T was friends with my neighbors and they were outside drinking Budweiser every single night in their lawn chairs listening to reggae. So i joined them; every single day. And then it progressed from there!

Opinions?! Comments?! Thoughts?!


Andhari said...

It can happen in all places you've mentioned above, no guarantee and no definite answer WHERE actually. I guess when you just find one then you just do. I mean, someone can meet a person lets say in church or recommended by families but still no guarantee! Confusing!

The Novelista Barista said...

OKAY i have changed the question a bit... i hope that helps!!!

check it out!!!

Dan said...

You don't wanna meet someone at a bar. Somewhere social and non-threatening like a pumpkin-patch or the supermarket. Paintball.

The Novelista Barista said...

LOL paintball would be an interesting place!!!

cuteellaisbold said...

I don't think there's one place to meet someone. I've met awesomely nice guys at the following places:
Frat party in college
Yahoo Personals
The gym
The Park
Different bars
through friends
through my brother
the grocery store
Pep Boys
a bachelorette party
...the list goes on.

I think you just have to keep an open mind and be willing to meet people in the first place! It might be helpful to go to a place where you're likely to meet someone you have something in common with, but really? It's all a gamble.

The best advice I've ever gotten is to stop looking. Meet people, have fun. You'd be surprised what comes of it!

The Novelista Barista said...

Very true... when ur looking, u will never meet the person, or they wont be what ur looking for or ur standards are too high blah blah.
and meeting someone at a bachlorette party must be fun :)

Waterwings said...

We met through a mutual friend.

called the internet.

Cheryl said...

Ooo! a subject my girlfriends and I are trying to figure out as well. Wherever it is, it generally seems to be whenever you're not looking. I ran into a guy the other day who asked me out walking back to my car after buying groceries. And I got a guy's number at Starbuck's last Sunday (for a friend, he wasn't my type) after he volunteered to share his table.

I also heard of this journalist who went around the world dating the men her friends had set her up with (recounted in Around the World in 80 Dates). She met her husband while on one of these dates - but he wasn't one of the men she'd been set up with.

The Novelista Barista said...

Awe that is awesome!!!!
random places are great for meeting people... because its when ur least expecting it!!!

amy said...

Hiya lovely lady! I just left you an award on my blog, please check it out!

Sonja said...

hmm my theory meen the right person when you aren't looking! you can meet them anywhere really...before being married I would never date anyone from a party/bar/club. because down here in Jax. they do nothing but party..and I didnt want a party guy. With that said I threw a Florida/Georiga (football) game party & my ex boyfriend brough my now husband and thats how we met. LMAO. He was a partier before I met him & then he settled down SEVERLY! I was such a hypocrite but I wasnt looking & couldnt help that I fell for him :)

annnnd now you know my love story hahaha idk if thats what you were looking for though! :-/

Shop Girl* said...

Hmm... I think the TYPE of bar changes the likely hood of meeting / connecting with someone. A club? Mayyyybe, but a nice lounge or martini bar? You might have more success.

I met my Hubs through a friend of mine... and I liked it because I already had someone to vouch that he was a good guy. Friends of friends is the way to go!

The Novelista Barista said...

Aweeee i love both ur love stories!!!!! :)

Sonja said...

I just re-read what I wrote & I apologize for the grammatical errors! lol I'm drugged up on Tylenol cold and my brain is clogged! hahaha sorry! :)

Mandy said...

Hi, I'm Mandy.

And I think that this is a great post. It is true, you can only meet quality guys certain places. But I think you are right on - through friends is usually the best. Thanks for the great read!

The Novelista Barista said...

awe thanks mandy!!!

The Novelista Barista said...

sonja thats okay!!

M.J. said...

I met Jack at a house party. We were friends for years before dating. We are a perfect mix--he's a DJ and I love to dance :)

BTW - I left a little something for you on my blog...

OceanDreams said...

I agree, I think the best way to meet a BF is with friends or through workers...but if you don't have the opportunity I like online, specifically E-harmony. That is where I met my boyfriend. I like this because it is great for shy people like me who want to know straight up if this person is genuinely interested in me. Once you meet and work well together, you forget that meeting online was where all the magic started to begin with. Just my two cents! Have a great day love!

Miss Mercedes said...

Cool post! Not that I know what the answer is...I met my guy at a conference. It never should have worked out but it did so I guess it doesn't matter where you meet...just feel lucky you met.

Thomas said...

As a guy, I have always thought meeting girls through friends was the way to do it. Your friends can vouch for you. Also being friends with people of the opposite sex really works too. When you are in the "friend" mode, there really is not too much pressure and people can be more themselves.

The Girl of Make Believe said...

My boyfriend used to work in a shop around the corner from my house and my brother went a few times and he became friendly with him.
Anyway we all ended up at the same party and I was introduced to my bf and we hung out, but nothing happened.
I really fancied him, he had (has) gorgeous eyes.
I didn't see him for about a week and then he called me one evening randomly and asked me to meet him at a park in between where we both lived, so I go and we walk around for hours. He said that he really wanted to take it further and was gutted that I had a bf. He thought my brother was my bf....Lol. I told him he wasn't and he kissed me....and that was almost 3 years ago :-)

Sunshinemeg said...

I love this post and I love your thoughts. I agree with the find them through your friends thing. I met my fiance in college through a large groups of "friends." It worked for me. I think your closest friends have their friends and their friends have friends... and so on.

Iva said...

these thursdays are fun! I met my husband in college, we had a class together :)

Jill Pilgrim said...

I met my husband at a bar. A very crowded, very loud bar. Not the most romantic story, but it did end very well.

The Novelista Barista said...

Nice!!! i love everyones comments!! If it worked for you guys, that is awesome! i hope people can take tips from this and hopefully meet their dream man or woman!! :)

One day peeps... one day!!!

justatitch said...

I swore off men on a Friday, after a particularly bad date with a guy I'd been dating off and on for a year. I went to a party of a good friend the next night, grumpy, rumpled and unshowered and a really cute, nice guy introduced himself to me.

We went out the following Wednesday---cut to a year and a half later, and we're in love and sharing an apartment.

You really never, ever know.

The Novelista Barista said...

awe :) thats a great one!!! thanks justatitch !

Stephanie said...

I met my boyfriend in a seedy bar on a street notorious for used car lots, prostitutes and drugs (the main street that used to run between dallas & ft worth-pre freeway). To top it off, we met in the single stall women's restroom, while I was in their waiting with my friend.

classy or what? LOL

Miss Confession said...

anywhere is possible to meet the guy/girl. But seriously, when one is really looking, it always doesn't happen - either you end up with nothing or the wrong one. But when you finally decide - "Oh this is too much I'm sick of this, I should just learn to live life single n loving it" - and BAM! that person comes along.

The Novelista Barista said...

LOL stephanie... thats awesome! haha very cute

@miss confession... this is so true! always happens!

amindinmotown said...

I have never attempted online dating or even meeting anyone at a bar. To be honest, every relationship I've had has come as the result of meeting a friend's friend, and you're right, that's the best. If a friend can attest for your potential mate, then he or she is probably a good catch, at least to some extent.


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