Friday, September 25, 2009

BH Files - Let's Just Be Friends


I don't talk to my ex because he was the love of my life and broke my heart for no reason. We were together all four years of college and had made plans together for our future. A month after graduation, he called me and ended it over the phone (we were apart for the summer). No explanation whatsoever.

He told me he wanted to remain friends, and actually said that he would not allow me to cut him out of my life. He called me once after the breakup but I did not pick up. We are not friends. I can't believe the cruelty that exists in this world - that one person can hurt another person so much without so much as a thought. To this day, he believes he did nothing wrong.

Just the bond that we shared, the connection we had...it was incredible, through the good and the bad. We could have had such an amazing future together. And he ended it.

And I don't think I can ever forgive him for doing that to us.


9 comments:

M.J. said...
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M.J. said...

After four years, he ended it over the phone?!? What a slime-ball!

The Novelista Barista said...

yeah seriosuly.... men.. i swear... dont get it!

Dana said...

Sheesh, he could have at least had the decency to wait till you could be face to face!! What a loser.

Every time I think about my break up and how wonderful a guy he was, I remember that there is a reason we broke up, and if I thought he was wonderful, the person I'm SUPPOSED to be with for the rest of my life is going to be SUPER wonderful.

Stephanie said...

Wow, that's really horrible. I don't think I could live with myself if I were him- How cowardly.

.:*aMbAr*:. said...

WOW.... what an a****ole. It was probably for the better though, I mean can you imagine if he did that after marriage, or after you had kids. I bet he's still sorry.

Andhari said...

And very understandably so, a summer apart should not give that much of effect if you've dated for 4 years. You deserve to cut him off from your life more than ever.

Sebastian said...

Well, what a post to just walk in to...

I'm sure there's more to the story, but I won't pry unless you're happy to divulge.

It's sad that you don't keep in touch, despite how difficult it would be for you (and possibly him).

There's almost certainly a reason he broke up with you. Whether it's _rational_ is another question entirely. But we humans are awfully fond of our irrational breaks...

The other thing is perhaps it was rational from HIS point of view; but without finding that out, it's impossible for you to get things straight in your head -- and you're forced to conjure falsehoods... which is never healthy :)

The Novelista Barista said...

thanks for all of ur comments!! :)
please feel free to share ur stories !

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