No it's usually not.
Especially when you are single.
My friend Conor and I were discussing dating and sex the other day and how girls in Ireland are teases and how girls in America usually follow through with their teasing and then we got onto the date that I was supposed to go on last week which failed miserably where I figured out the truth in this statement.
Meet Date 1. I recently was supposed to go out on a date with this guy I met at the Yankee Game. We hung out once before at bar, and it was cool, he was really quite but he's mad cute. I hadn't seen him for awhile but he kept bothering me through texts to hang out. So I gave in so he would shutup (sounds horrible I know).
I tell him I have to go to dinner with my girl because she is going on a date and needed moral support. He said okay. Then awhile later he said he just wanted to hang out with me. I told him we just had to go out to dinner then we could hang out. Essentially, I really didn't want to be stuck anywhere alone with him because I knew what he was getting at and I really don't know him at all and didn't want to be stuck in an awkward situation.
I told D1 to be at the place by 6:30 and when I had text him he hadn't even left his house yet and it was 6:15. He told me he was looking for his GPS. I knew right then he obviously was not going to show up. I told him if he couldn't "find his GPS by 8:30 then not to bother wasting his time driving there". And that was the last I heard of him.
Now, what did I learn from this? He wanted to hook up and that was it. No dinner, no movies, no drinks, nothing. Sex. And then be out.
And okay, that is fine. I am down with that, I don't mind just sex. BUT don't lie about it! Be straight to the point. "Oh Im trying to find my GPS" oh please, do I look stupid?
I told Conor that sex is not free! You BEST be wining and dining me if you expect ANYTHING to happen! Especially if this is like one of the first couple of dates! And I am not talking about just sex, I mean anything in general! I mean, if you aren't going to wine & dine me, at least buy me cigarettes or candy or take me to a money, I don't know.... pick me some fucking flowers off the side of the road is better than nothing! I am NOT saying you need to take me to a 7 star restaurant and spend like a million dollars on me or anything, but I am not a whore, so let's be slightly classy here okay?!
I mean, am I wrong? Is that wrong to say that sex is not free? I am not talking about that you have to pay people in straight cash for it, this is not prostitution, but I guess in a way it sort of is... because you start with the dinner, maybe ice cream, maybe movies, whatever sort of "date" you are going on, and then you work your way up to the kiss or to the bedroom, maybe a little action, maybe some touching, who knows? If you played your cards right, maybe you'll get laid.
But is it free? Hell no! You have to work for that shit! It is almost like a part time job, trying to get laid. This pretty much applies for both sexes, but I think it applies more to men.
Sex for dinner? Sex for drinks? Sex for flowers?...... hmm.... lol
So, how much does it cost to get you into bed? :) lol that sounds horrible.. but you see where I am coming from!